Saturday, December 16, 2017

Our Own Joffrey

The Fall of an Empire

The making of a tyrant is a not so tedious process. Mix the elements of privilege without honor, perseverance and hard work and a spoonful of one’s grandiose illusion of entitlement. This is the perfect recipe for a boy’s demise and unfortunately enough, the kingdom he so wrongly rules.

I am no knight, only a soldier. A loyal one at that. Left to rot on a soon to be exhausted pasture, an ageing warrior who fought valiantly for his Lord and now can do nothing but wait for the imminent. 

Several years ago, an attempt to destroy me was plotted by my Lord and his son. The plot only damaged my emotion and my livelihood but not my integrity, definitely not I. I believe that it was upon the belief that I am no longer needed because there are no more enemies to be faced and the challenges ahead seems to them manageable.

It was the time of plenty, and it was the time they plotted not to share. And it was a time of misconceived capabilities of themselves and their minions that led them to believe that I, and some others, like old dogs, can be put down and discarded.

That was eight or so years ago… and over that time, with every project, they have proven that I am still of value.
The empire’s expansion and the carelessness of the masters has led to our own demise and the appointment of the heir-apparent to a significant position did not help, in fact it made matters worse.

When an adult child comes into an organization with this level of entitlement and a God complex, the problem is that he or she was probably catered to as a kid. Many parents with the best of intentions never want their children to suffer. As a result, the child is often protected from rules, discipline and consequences of his bad decisions.
A child raised in this manner will enter the adult world expecting everyone in his environment to allow him to be a dictator. The adult world will soon teach this young man that business rewards results, not a grandiose ego.If his father has allowed this guy to act like this since he was 2 and learned the word "No!" then you and your coworkers may be in for a long slog while his father learns to get his child in line.
Parents who have raised entitled kids have a very hard time being the "bad guy" so they can teach their kid to function in the real world. Only you can decide if the job you currently have is worth the price you will have to pay to see if your boss will control his son. ---- Daneen Skube, Ph.D.

This piece of internet literature made me laugh simply because our own King Joffrey’s email says that he is God and acted that way upon entering the company’s organization. But I on the other hand understand my Boss enough to have tried getting the heir in line…. And I miserably failed.

And that failure is simply because I did not play him like I should have because I simply for the life of me could not. I am more of a man than that.

In a company where you are favored by the Royal family one day and fall out of grace the next, that is how martyrs are made. And that is how kingdoms crumble.

Family-owned businesses are in many ways the backbone of capitalism around the world. But at some point in their growth, having family members in charge is not only problematic, but dangerous.
New research looking at firm performance of thousands of medium-sized businesses found a lot to like for family run enterprises. But it also pinpointed a common practice that can lead to a business diving into big problems. And that practice is when the founder hands the CEO title to his oldest son.
"The firm's share price and profits usually take more of a tumble when the company is handed from the founder to his eldest son relative to an outsider," according to the researchers, reporting on their results in Harvard Business Review. "Studies of CEO succession also suggest that sons who become CEOs usually have poorer college results and are much younger than other CEOs."
As an alternative, family owners should consider bringing in professional managers from the outside, say the researchers -- Nicholas Bloom (Stanford), Raffaella Sadun (Harvard Business School), and John Van Reenen (London School of Economics). "Keeping things in the family can be bad for the wallet as well as the welfare of the next generation. ---- Sean Silverthorne is the editor of HBS Working Knowledge

In the end, I am still the loyal servant, not of the crown, but of the one true King. But like what Sir Thomas More said before he was beheaded, “I die the king's faithful servant, but God's first.” 

Saturday, September 23, 2017

Half a Century of Life

Slightly looking forward and a bit enthusiastic... A bit anticipating but not petrified. By what, you say? By fortune tellers of the past that said that my magic croak number would be 49... and that meant that I'll never reach half a century. Once a doctor said that I'd never live past 30... and yet I made it to today.

On the occasion of my 50th birthday. I only thank LIFE for giving me all the experiences. The pain, the sorrows, the sufferings and the love... oh yes... the love. I'd like to thank life for a second chance on love. This may be the cheesiest post ever but I do appreciate everything that I have now. I am somehow thankful for all the things that I do not have because having them might not be as fun as being me.

Sunday, September 17, 2017

What Makes a Bad Boss - Bad?

This is a hell of a good read

Reader Comments About Bad Bosses

Nothing sparks more commentary than asking about what makes a manager a bad boss. With my Web site poll and its lengthy comments thread, I found some common themes in site visitor responses.

Want to avoid becoming a bad boss? Afraid that you may already be considered a bad boss? Just want to commiserate with other people who have bad bosses? Here are your thoughts about what makes a bad boss, well - bad?

Consensus doesn't exist, but several themes occurred most frequently in the comments the site received from readers. Bad bosses, in order of their frequency in the comments thread, do the following.
  • Love brownnosers, tattletales, and relatives who report to them. They choose favorite employees and cover up and make excuses for the poor work of their incompetent favorites. They ignore selected people and discriminate against many employees.
  • Fail to communicate, and may not even have, expectations, timelines or goals. Bad bosses change their minds frequently leaving employees off-balance. Bad bosses change expectations and deadlines frequently.
  • Use disciplinary measures inappropriately when simple, positive communication would correct the problem. Bad bosses ignore employees until there is a problem, then pounce.
  • Speak loudly, rudely, one-sidedly to staff. Bad bosses don't provide the air time for staff to respond to accusations and comments. They intimidate people and bully staff. They allow other employees to bully employees.
  • Take credit for the successes and positive accomplishments of employees. They are equally as quick to blame employees when something goes wrong.
  • Fail to provide rewards or recognition for positive employee performance.
These six were the top "bad boss" characteristics cited by readers. The following came up less frequently but were contributed by more than one reader. The bad boss:
  • Is not qualified for the boss job by either skills or experience.
  • Will not let go of problems or mistakes. The bad boss returns to discuss negative events continually and searches for faults in employees.
  • Will not accept constructive feedback and suggestions for improvement. The bad boss can't deal with disagreement from employees who have their own opinions about work related issues.
  • Lacks integrity, breaks promises, and is dishonest.
  • Does not have the courage to deal with a difficult situation despite knowing that it is the right thing to do.
  • Causes dissention among staff members by his or her actions and comments.
Reader comments also made the point that a lot of bad boss behavior is enabled, or at least allowed, by the boss's bad boss.

These comments provide a snapshot about what employees believe makes a bad boss. Listen and learn or listen and commisserate. For the full flavor of the comments - I can't capture them in a summary - please visit the original "comments" thread about bad bosses.

Friday, June 16, 2017


The Ill-fated Skalawags Reunion was a most successful event that went sour when a retarded band member went mental or menopausal whatever it was on gig day! But the gig went ok despite despite despite... Lesson learned!

Monday, May 22, 2017

Ang aking alaala sa skalawags

Noong late 80s, ako ay guro sa St. Scholastica’s College at nakatira sa isang maliit na boarding house sa Leon Guinto. Nakilala ko ang isang kapwa Lasalista na si Edwin Aguilar na nakatira sa katabing boarding house at kami ay naging magkaibigan. Siya ang nagpakilala sa akin sa tropa nila Bonglennon, Raymond Sanchez, Ompong at Nonong at nagkaisa kaming bumuo ng banda.
Noong  panahon na iyon, ang banda ko na Insurgency ay nagkahiwalay hiwalay na dahil sa aming mga kanya kanyang trabaho. Sa totoo lang, wala akong alam noon sa ska at punk music lang naman talaga madalas kong pakinggan, pero sila nag orient sa akin sa ska. So nakita ko na hindi masasayang ang mga sinulat kong mga kanta para sa insurgency dahil sa skalawags na ito mapupunta. (Although as fate would have it, magkakahiwahiwalay rin naman pala kami dahil magiging Tropical Depression sila lahat, hahaha, pero at least na irecord naming ang Thank you America under Musika)

Masakit yung yugto na iyon at di kami nag usap usap ng matagal. Si Domeng, two years mahigit bago ko kinausap at si Chikoy pinangaralan ako na ang banda ay hindi kasal. Hehe

So immediately after the break up, pinorma ko ang Marginals at tumagal kami ng mahigit limang taon on and off…. Ang unang album na insecurities ay na release under Aquarius records and Tapes at ang pangalawang album na Balang Araw ay unreleased. Nakaikot pa rin naman kami sa eksena… sa dredd at mayric’s pero never kaming nagkakatagpo ng mga dating skalawags sa tugtugan.  Ika nga nila ay iniiwasan ako noon ni Domeng. Hehe  Naging active din ang Marginals sa local punk scene… dun sa rock a punk series and Angry Young bands compilation tapes.

I would move on to normal jobs and even odd jobs para suportahan ang nanay kong may sakit noon, pero di ko iniwan ang paggawa ng mga kanta… later nung maulila ako, nahilig ako sa tech side ng music para makapag produce ng mga kanta, nagtayo ng studyo-istudyuhan at nag produce ng walong album na personal, isa para sa kaibigang producer para sa bandang PRAXIS at tatlong album ng tatlong bandang alaga ko (Ang Bandang Alamat, Back Pipe, Asherdash) under sunset records. 128 songs total. hahaha

Paminsan minsan, pag may pagkakataon… nakakasalang sa mga tugtugan pero yun lang. Wala sa eksena, walang plano… 5 years ago, napadalas punta sa akin ni Domeng sa opisina … kasama si Edwin, minsan kasama si nonong at lennon. Later sya na lang… 3 years ago sinilip ko sng Jerks sa Tiendesitas and that’s it.

Sabi ko, this year is significant kasi mag 50 na ako so ano kaya magandang alaala bago ako matigok at nakita ko sa youtube ang reunion ng specials. Sabi ko it would be nice to reunite with skalawags… the band who was almost there… hahaha. And alas… isang araw, may bagong chat room sa messenger ko na skalawags ang name at binuo ni Edwin… so eto na. Wish it and it just might come true!

Ang skalawags, unlike other bands nowadays, wala kaming masyadong footprint… ang mayroon lang ay ang mga alaala ng mga nakapanuod sa amin sa marami naming mga nagging tugutugan. At iyon ang nakakatuwa, buhay pa ang mga lolo. Hahaha

So sa June 2, dalhin ang mga maintenance pills at tumungo sa B-side Makati para manuod sa mga Pilipinas Ska Bands… kasama syempre ang the SKALAWAGS.